Clear communication prevents hurt feelings. Sit down or call your mother to manage her expectations moving forward.
Here is what I learned:
Perhaps your relationship felt strained, distant, or purely functional. Maybe you felt guilty for not being present, or perhaps you just felt like you were drifting apart.
She said, “You’ve been good to me this month. Don’t stop.”
The gap between us—the awkward, heavy gap where all our unspoken grievances used to live—has shrunk. We can sit in a room together now without the air feeling like wet cement. We can disagree about politics and then five minutes later, she asks if I want leftovers, and I say yes, and it doesn't feel like a betrayal of my values.
"Why are you being so nice to me?" she gasped. "I wasn't... I wasn't this nice to you when you were little. I was so tired. I was so angry all the time. I'm sorry. I'm so sorry."
What specific from your mother are you trying to fix? How did she respond during your month of showing love?
The "Love Hangover": How to Recalibrate After a Month of Intense Caretaking
After A Month Of Showering My Mother With Love Fix ✦
Clear communication prevents hurt feelings. Sit down or call your mother to manage her expectations moving forward.
Here is what I learned:
Perhaps your relationship felt strained, distant, or purely functional. Maybe you felt guilty for not being present, or perhaps you just felt like you were drifting apart.
She said, “You’ve been good to me this month. Don’t stop.”
The gap between us—the awkward, heavy gap where all our unspoken grievances used to live—has shrunk. We can sit in a room together now without the air feeling like wet cement. We can disagree about politics and then five minutes later, she asks if I want leftovers, and I say yes, and it doesn't feel like a betrayal of my values.
"Why are you being so nice to me?" she gasped. "I wasn't... I wasn't this nice to you when you were little. I was so tired. I was so angry all the time. I'm sorry. I'm so sorry."
What specific from your mother are you trying to fix? How did she respond during your month of showing love?
The "Love Hangover": How to Recalibrate After a Month of Intense Caretaking
